1. manfeels-park:

    So confused


    From Facebook, with thanks to Lucrece and Ryan.

    More lovely feminist humour for your day.


  2. "My response to the ‘I am not a feminist’ internet phenomenon….

    First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”

    But here is what I think you should know.

    You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

    You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

    You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

    You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (it is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

    In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

    In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.

    — Libby Anne (via dillondean)

    (Source: dumbledoresarmy-againstbigotry, via sabelmouse)

    Tagged #this #feminism

  4. caelas:

    saying feminism is unnecessary because you don’t feel oppressed is like saying fire extinguishers are unnecessary because your house isn’t on fire

    (via quasiflexuralthrusting)

    Tagged #this #feminism
  5. Tagged #feminism

  6. dont-panic-zoology:


    The comment that guy added to my photo pretty much perfectly demonstrates what’s wrong with our society’s attitude to women.

    Let’s break this down: “SHUT UP WHORE AND SWALLOW THIS COCK !!!”

    According to him I am a “whore” because I have a nude photograph of myself on the internet. Never mind…

    I lost 2 followers posting about this before but this needs to be said. Keep fighting the fight dude…not all men are like this but the ones who do think and act like it need to be told why they are wrong

    The photo is beautiful.

    The pervasive patriarchal culture that produces misogynistic, entitled, aggressive men who see women as object, as little more than commodity and receptacle, is not.

  7. 95bFM asked NZ politicians representing women, what they think are the biggest issues women face, and are they feminists.

    Why Craig is ‘representing women’ I’m unsure, but I’m not surprised that his answer was all about men. I do wish he’d go home and play with his train set and leave real life to the rest of us, maybe after September he’ll get the drift.

    It’s also sadly unsurprising that National’s Goodhew failed to mention violence against women, considering that party’s response to current public discussion and recent events.

    Logie’s answer on the other-hand is not just rounded, but wholistic and evident of joined-up thinking on the subject. Now obviously I’m a Green supporter, but the cogency and inclusiveness of Logie’s response is one of the reasons I am.

  9. womenwhokickass:

    'It's interesting for me to bring up a girl. You go to the toy store and the female characters there - Cinderella, the lady in Beauty and the Beast - their major task is to find Prince Charming. And I'm like, wait a minute - it's 2005! We've fought so hard to have a say, and not just live through our partners, and yet you're still seeing two-year-old girls with this message pushed at them that the only important thing is to find this amazing dress so that the guy will want you. It's something my mum pointed out to me when I was little - so much that I almost threw up - but she's right.'

    - Björk

    Interesting being an aunty to a girl for the same reasons.


  10. The fact that in terms of the (specific, contextless) data, the author of this piece is correct, doesn’t void the subtle victim blaming throughout - oh except for the last paragraph  where he gives the caveat that "married men can and do abuse or assault their wives or daughters. Marriage is no panacea when it comes to male violence."  Sure, in anthropological or evolutionary terms it makes sense that a non-related male is likely to be more of a danger to a woman or her children, but theoretically we aspire to be more than just clever chimpanzees.  Here’s the thing, evolutionary argument, statistics, cultural traditions, whatever:  it still ain’t her faultit is, on the other hand, his.

    The biggest problem I have with this article is that there’s no real acknowledgement of all the socio-political factors that go into who marries or doesn’t marry.  Well not beyond "For women, part of the story is about what social scientists call a “selection effect,” namely, women in healthy, safe relationships are more likely to select into marriage, and women in unhealthy, unsafe relationships often lack the power to demand marriage or the desire to marry. Of course, women in high conflict marriages are more likely to select into divorce." which doesn’t really acknowledge fuck all.  

    The next biggest problem - or possibly, probably, they tie in first place - is that there is no examination of how we might use this understanding, these statistics in order to address male violence towards women and children - non-related or related.  It reads like a shrug of the shoulders suggesting that if only women would be responsible and get married there would be a lot less violence - as opposed to if only men could learn not to be violent towards women and children - non-related or otherwise.  Because that’s the problem.  

    Here’s another thing: is he saying that women don’t marry violent men? or that marriage makes men not violent? his emphasis certainly seems to be on the latter: “But marriage also seems to cause men to behave better. That’s because men tend to settle down after they marry, to be more attentive to the expectations of friends and kin, to be more faithful, and to be more committed to their partners—factors that minimize the risk of violence."  Which is pretty damn insulting to all the decent non-violent men I know, some of whom are married, some of whom are in committed relationships, some who are single and some who are gay (and I dunno is he assuming that their sexuality makes them less violent? or is it women who make men violent? or is domestic violence between two men uninteresting to him?).  I suspect that the “selection effect” referred above has more of an impact than he’d like to admit.  

    I’m also concerned that he doesn’t address the fact that a sense of entitlement is a major contributor to intimate partner and domestic violence.  This is particularly concerning because the implicit ‘ownership’ in the patriarchal model of marriage (with the paterfamilias as provider and protector) is one of the root causes of domestic violence in marriages. That is, when a patriarchal male senses that his dominance within the family is at threat, or is feeling threatened from external sources, he takes it out on his wife and kids.  Which would suggest that it’s not ‘marriage’ per se that ‘protects’ women and children from violence, but men’s attitudes that leads to violence against women (or male intimate partners) and children.

    Slut-shaming is another factor that tends to lead to violence against women.  But this article goes ahead and leads with it: “The data show that #yesallwomen would be safer with fewer boyfriends around their kids"  Lovely, because unmarried women have lots of boyfriends and that’s a bad thing.  It’s like he hasn’t really thought about the problem at all.

    Then of course, what about forced marriage?

    Fuck it, the more I think about it, the more it all pisses me off.